What We Offer
CUB has support groups in many urban areas. Those members who do not live near a Branch have found comfort and support through the sharing of personal experiences in our newsletter, CUB Communicator. The newsletter contains thoughtful, provocative articles on various adoption-related topics, shares stories and reunions, provides book and movie reviews, and helps keep members abreast of changing adoption laws.
Most people contact CUB because they are interested in searching for a son, daughter, birthparents, or sibling. If that is your interest, you should be aware that searching is not just a matter of learning techniques for finding. You are likely to find yourself facing emotional issues about yourself, your experience with adoption and surrender, your feelings about the person for whom you are searching, and perhaps life in general. We recommend that you consider joining CUB. Through attendance at support group meetings and The Communicator, you will learn of others' feelings and experiences, and how they coped with issues you may face in your search. This information can help prepare you for what your search may bring, and for decisions you may make regarding your reunion.
CUB will not do your search for you. We are a non-profit organization founded on the principle of mutual help, which means that we help each other. We hope you will find the help you need, and you reach out to help others. CUB's web site contains a Bulletin Board link. You can ask to hear from other people with a similar situation to help you with emotional issues, ask to hear from people who are in the situation you think the person you see might be in, or ask for search help.
Many of our members are not actively searching. Perhaps they have already found, or they are considering search but do not feel ready or want to wait. Some only want to work at understanding themselves or others. It is important for you to know that however you or someone else feels is okay. We are all in CUB because of our desire to help ourselves and each other deal with adoption.
CUB offers booklets which address the perspectives of birthparents, adoptees and adoptive parents in an attempt to help us understand issues our family members may face. Our goal is that we can all be better prepared to develop a long-term relationship with each other during and after reunion.